Custom Tattoo Design

I would like someone to help me design a custom tattoo. This is a deeply personal subject and I would like someone to help me flesh this idea out.

A bit about me – I grew up in an adoptive and abusive family and pretty much have taken it as my mission in life to stop the circle of abuse and better myself.

The concept I have is to acknowledge the roots – one leg for mom’s side (right) and the other for dad’s side (left). Yet from these roots something better has grown and developed over time, but not without significant events. I had a lot of issues as a kid was abused in a lot of different ways by my parents, there was physical abuse (mostly dad), mental abuse (both), religious abuse (mom) and I was raped at 6 and beaten for “lying” about it happening.

Starting somewhere on the right leg it all starts with my birth mom – she reluctantly gave me up. My earliest memories of my birth mother include her struggles with depression and anxiety, she was hyper religious and would use it as a weapon. She washed out my mouth with soap when I lied about being raped. (please include rape symbol). She would nail crosses to the house and called me the devil and isolated me from the world.

On the left side, birth father abandoned me has had no interest. My adoptive father was angry, controlling and love to punish me. My dad used to come into my room at night and I had a nightmare for years about him. I didn’t even realize it was him until a few years ago, I used to fight this monster from a bit and would lose and lose to him. Finally I realized it was him and would beat him and he would laugh at me. One night I finally defeated him and haven’t had the dream since. That dream reoccured for about 25 years…. (I have a drawing of this dream I can share too)

I used to frequently contemplate suicide as a child and tried (please include the semi-colon). They called me fat (nickname of pudge because I was pudgy) and said I looked like a gorilla boy because I am hairy and they weren’t. I would prefer these items to be less visible normally (so on thigh or hips ).

On the lower back (still roots as part of the tree metaphor.
USMC – Battlefield Cross and Flag Faded (I joined the marine corps, but left due to undiscovered heart issue after OCS – a part of me died with that).
Knowledge – The thinker (covers both education and how much I thought as a kid both in sadness and how to get out)
Work – I started working for others at 12 and was working nearly non-stop (summers, weekends) by time I was 14. I worked all through college ( I started my senior year of HS).

Then maybe as part of the trunk – I ended contact with my family and it was the best thing I could have done for my mental health. The image of Medusa always connected with me.

Mid-back at this point I have grown into a man, as imperfect as one could be, but a man nevertheless. ’d like the vitrivian man because it is supposed to represent perfect proportions, but using my proportions. I spent a lot of time striving for perfection that wasn’t helpful or real. I would like this man possible wrapped in the ouroborus for self-reliance.

Upper Back – I would like the branches to be turning into wolves for each of my children. I have three now (Jack – strong, patient, intelligent) , Hannah (intense, tough, strong ) and Nina (happy, loving, emotionally intelligent). Yet please leave room for possibly two more kids.